Child Sexual Abuse, Words and Deeds

Not so many years that the concept of child sexual abuse began to creep into our everyday vocabulary and to be taken into account as a reality that affects us more directly than we were willing to believe. Although there has been a step in the right direction, this is still an issue that we produce too much discomfort, in a sense is like if we wanted to talk about it no longer exists. Unfortunately that attitude does not help anyone, least of all those who have been through this traumatic experience. It's a recurring question whether these abuses are perpetrated more today than in the past, being always the same answer: no. At least proportionally, it is obvious that if the world there are more people there will be more of everything. The key is information. Today the news, newspaper, or any other means that does not incorporate a sexual abuse case, has become almost an exception. That has its good side, no doubt. Our worst enemy has always been silence, which joined the "indoctrination? which were submitted by our aggressor, eventually convince our complicity in that aberration.

Guilt and shame made our life a place marked by a gray and secrecy that was destroying us. It is not easy to transfer those unfamiliar with the intricacies of those suffering mental abuses a more or less clear about why we feel what we feel. As they say, I think this is one of those experiences that can only understand who ever lived. However, it is imperative to provide accurate information and to combat misconceptions that still confound our society. Wherever it appears in the media some of these chilling news, the most indignant response is often similar, but to my regret is far removed from reality and social needs, after all, is what we need and what should matter. I have often heard expressions of style: ever To me this would happen! Or: How is it that the mother would not know! Or in another sense, expressions like: this has to be cut! Or: to be locked in jail and not leave again! All these expressions are very understandable, but I can not help thinking that all of us easier to say when we are behind the barrier and the problem in question does not affect us in a direct way.

When a person has lived circumstances this limit can happen and many other things. And unfortunately the environment (and we are all the environment in many people) do not always react properly. In these cases it is possible that no one knows what happened, and we must add the high probability of lower himself who tries to hide at all costs. In my case it was so. Most abuse is perpetrated in the child's immediate environment, more than half within the family, and it is common to find anyone. It is also true that before there was no information or resources. It is more than enough go now, but at least there are escape routes, prevention, reporting and protection. While it is a fact that the abuser often act with impunity and rarely is discovered, it is no less than usual, despite the more or less founded suspicion, the environment I look away. Or in the worst case the child is abandoned to their fate even knowing what is happening. Hard to imagine oneself in such a frame of mind and we all believe that we would act better, but the words, basically, are not just words.

We also often use phrases such as those cited above: you have to cut it off! In jail! The Shawshank Redemption! This is all very well but what effect does it all in our immediate reality? Let's say that amputation is more a visceral response to what would be acceptable in our penal code, however the laws leave much to be desired when it comes to this type of aggressors. As an example, saying that the statute of limitations as much at 15 years, so that some, when they take on and face what happened in his childhood and decide to opt for the path of the complaint, find that they have been prescribed and not can do nothing. We argue that the modifications or changes in the penal code is something that applies to politicians. I think that affects us all, and if politicians do not get to work should not remain with arms folded. After all they are people who ended up calling the father of the infamous missing Mari Luz, who lived this reality in their own flesh, or as people who've been through this and come together through partnerships or through the network.

It was precisely by a talk with the president of the association Aspasia de Madrid (http://www.aspasi.es/) I raised this in writing. Marga said that I had already exhausted their financial resources to continue to maintain the association and that the face in September he had no alternative but to borrow from the bank to move forward. With two children to take care of it seems to me admirable determination, although it fails to shock me at some things that are unfair. An association for their subsistence needs partners. It is obvious and yet does not occur. The childhood sexual abuse affects us all Is that a city like Madrid can not support an association so necessary? It is also true that institutions must provide their share of grants, but we all know that things are moving slowly palace, and when these come Marga hopefully continue to soldier on for the good of all. But I can not help but think people are shocked at the abuses which cry, those who demonstrate and outraged. What with all this apparent solidarity? Are not there enough people in Madrid solidarity understand the need for such associations exist and can keep them?

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