What you should not do after leaving a relationship marked by abuse

A reaction time is always timely and vital in escape from a relationship marked by physical abuse. Given the terrible situation of these characteristics, the victim may be in a dangerous situation not substantially act quickly.

However, there is a tendency among many of those who have suffered in their own skin abuse and violence from their partners to end up seeing them as an everyday thing in your life, or even to re-offend once they have left this couple abusive, returning with her.

So, if you were thou himself / herself a victim of domestic violence, you should try to avoid as much as possible some errors that occur too frequently among people who have gone through similar situations to yours:

1. First, you should not ask yourself or wait are others who should get you out of your abusive relationship. Your performance will be mainly determined which can end this abuse have suffered, but for that you have help from your loved ones, and even associations and institutions of public character.

In short, get your honor and self-esteem is something anyone can do for you.

2. In any case should not cling to the empty promises of change displayed by your partner. Probably try to apologize a thousand times, making sure that their acts of violence are not repeated in the future, and that you are the most important in your life.

However, the reality is that the risk of recurrence in these situations is very high. And the failure to cause it to be escaped, to a greater extent at the mercy of that person abusive, since it leads to the belief that you will never respond to their abuse.

3. You should avoid, as far as possible, design your own life from the perspective of a victim of abuse, because you could end up typecast in a position that will be very difficult to overcome.

In other words, if you maintain your status as a victim, you could end up relapsing again and again in abusive relationships as that of the cost you both escape (even with the same person who one day ran away).

If you can avoid these three common mistakes, you face a new life characterized by safety and freedom from abuse.

Begoña Alcaine Basin

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