Psychological Abuse With Mandates. Go back to reach an agreement

Psychological violence or emotional abuse is what you are experiencing in these times. In addition to the burden of family and your current relationship, also influence and enhance these situations, social laviolencia that exists in many places they frequent or the street itself. This brings to bring that feeling that people lived outside directly to the house and from here many times, tear attacks on people living with us.

In relation to this psychological violence or abuse that starts at home, no matter what the cause, You should drive in time to overcome it and restore peace and rebuild, or at worst see how to move or not this relationship .

If you follow and put into practice by little these techniques, you can achieve this goal.

"Run a golden bridge by which he can turn back the enemy" Sun Tzu.

So what is a bridge of gold? Is a strategy setting out and returning a situation that seems a throwback, a solution to the problem.

John: .... look and tell me that .. but I will not cancel the meeting for your class!

Patricia: I'm going to that class! ... Have to go alone to meet with your parents ....

look at this discussion, here Patricia holds more resistance to settling the matter on behalf of John and answers pressing in some way. That's not so good.

The challenge here is to convince him that pass through this empty space between his stubborn position and what you want to remember. When you press the light you put your proposal and see it is your idea and not his then you will feel you are "giving" and will be more negative.

You have to push, you have to "lure" to what you ideaste as a solution, this is where you tend the "golden bridge". This means that you must help him overcome this stubbornness to reach an agreement, and must be included in the process of finding this solution, which also feels that "his idea", and in turn satisfy some interest that benefits the agreement .

So Patricia would say, ".. well, you think if we do this? Earlier and let you stay later and I'm going to class and when I finish I go back and stayed to dinner with them, do you think?

Of course I say that often is not as easy to build this bridge of gold, and the other is very stubborn. Then you start to negotiate "from the place" where stood the other, "get next" and they'll guide the agreement.

What will you do then? So follow these steps:

Include it. do not lose the patience to spend much time talking to reach an agreement, calm down, breathe deeply, and do participate, ask questions such as "how do you think we can fix it?" Remember that the situation looks different when you participate. Maybe He'll do some concesión.Pídele ideas. not make the mistake of saying how to fix the problem, let alone tell you that your solution is best. You must ask questions ideas with what you say ....? How can I fix this?. With their responses recognizes the best ideas and take them as a starting point. Make him see that your proposal has to do with their ideas también.Pídele constructive criticism. Tell him to evaluate a proposal that you give, make constructive comments made by asking questions, eg "do you propose to improve the idea ....?" Can we do something to find a better solution for both ..?". just have the answers weapon When a proposal containing the ideas of the two and the dices.Comienza today to implement these techniques will be of great help to change the climate of violence and emotional recovery of your self-esteem.

For the eradication of family and social psychological violence, and the recovery of self-esteem.

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