When the fear of ridicule will not let you achieve your goals

Suppose your goal, your greatest desire is to be an actor or actress. Have you studied, you know what doors should play, it motivates you see standing on a stage, you have a plan on how to get to get your first role .... but .... something prevents you from moving.

Or maybe to advance to professional level, you should stand in front of 10 or 12 people on a board, but you keep sabotaging your chances of promotion.

Or are you a / a great poet, I love to recite your work, your love poems would be the delight of those who hear ... but do not you dare to take the step to make this happen.

What do you think they have in common these three objectives?

When the fear of ridicule paralyzes us, prevents us from moving forward, grow and become the person we would if we used our full potential. In life, from childhood, we've all ever been the butt of jokes and laughter of others. When we have enough self-confidence, we bear no further complications. Instead, there are people who generate a paralyzing phobia.

Since when I have fear?

In general, our fears, come from afar. You may not remember the exact moment we decided that we would expose more to the judgments of others. This is precisely the cause of fear of ridicule, have received excessive criticism, harsh comments about our behavior, indiscriminate mockery of our dress or speak ... If we have not received the small "claims" are needed to counteract the teasing never absent, if the go crying for the humiliations received, instead of receiving love from our parents or teachers, we received: Do not be silly! Above humiliated, we are now FOOLS! And the next step is to lock them in ourselves, to avoid criticism and humiliation, and all this leads to low self esteem.

What do we avoid?

people laugh at us, do something out of place (according to what we believe others deemed out of place) to be taken for fools or judged by the demásque ignorantesser not get to like the whole mundoquedar exposed by an destiempollamar laughter error or attention of others.

How to avoid?

First of all, we must be aware that other people have their minds full of their own problems. We are not your focus. People are walking navel gazing! So ... I would suggest that you sit in one place, and do a test. Put two different colored socks. One red and one green. Two are not very similar colors! Cheer up! You see if you feel uncomfortable, you can always start walking, and your pants will hide your socks!! :-) And the goal of this experiment, is sitting in a square, put one leg over the other, letting them see the difference in color of your socks. Stay well half an hour, and a book, says many people stopped to look at you, how I looked without stopping, and how many do not even looked ... In life, people laugh at different things. And laugh for different reasons. These reasons are often in your mind! You might as well just say, So Long, Lucas, and the other departed person is laughing, because it resembles a well-known comedian who used the tag! You never know and can control all the reasons that others laugh ...

so ... test with someone you trust, and try to begin to make him laugh. Tell her you want NOT to laugh. But for an arsenal of jokes rather funny to those who can not resist. Meet this friend once a week ... just to laugh! Another exercise you can do, for example, if you're in a jam, in line at the cinema, in the waiting room where a lot of people ... .. Look at the other .... surreptitiously, and mentally noted all those funny things, funny, ridiculous, outrageous .... and are so quiet!! Try to see it's natural for people dealing with situations like this, without even looking at the sides to see if the others estánseñalando finger! Another way to overcome this fear is to visualize a situation in which We are extremely ridiculous. Relaxed, sun @, close your eyes and remember the situation. No one else is watching you, can not hurt you because it is part of the past, can not see anyone else. Then, analyze, what was it that made you feel bad. ¿Stumbled Gave gave you hiccup when all were silent, I asked your opinion and stuttering? Then, visualize the situation and give her some change.

For example imagine that all the others are dressed as clowns, or have hiccups all the time. And now. SIR! SIR! In a loud voice, out loud! And finally, imagine a situation where you're wrong, where you would normally feel bad, and instead of "choosing" this behavior, choose, in your mind, with all the details you can see, behave differently. Laugh at the situation, no explanation, no apology, do not assume you're a puppet. Test all the new behavior you can imagine, all the past situations that made you feel uncomfortable, you paralyzed. Then your mind will have new forms of behavior for use in those moments! Ejercitándote daily, get over it!

The best medicine against fear of ridicule is to learn to laugh at situations, learn to laugh at ourselves. Repressing is harmful to us, both emotionally and physically! So ... Queaceptes I suggest that once the others laugh, once stumble, once you grasp hiccups .... life is what you have .... we can not control everything that happens to us and paralyze us, to avoid those situations IS NOT THE SOLUTION!