Body Language: improve your basic skills of interpersonal communication

Because merchants of jade dark glasses? No this is not the beginning of a bad joke, is a serious question and the response was telling. Jade dealers, and poker players alike, are designed to hide what they are really thinking and saying, suppressing the body language. Unless wheeling is your game, you should check the basic techniques of interpersonal communication of body language and be better understood.

93% of what he says is not said

Stereotyping is short hand decision-making if you like someone and determines how much effort you put into conversation. Your hair color, clothing, age, ethnicity and other characteristics that do not change during a conversation, all add up to give the overall impression, which can be good or it can be bad. The way you look says a lot - has a capacity of communication itself. So, start sending a positive message to get the right image.

If it works for chameleons

Stereotypes can work to your advantage - people who wear glasses are smarter, right? So, wear glasses to an interview. And people who wear revealing clothes are just to find a mate and can not be taken seriously. (A quick expose - a recent study showed that ovulating women expose more flesh than at other times of their cycle!). Learn from chameleons and change your look to suit your surroundings and your communication will be taken more seriously.

Eye to Eye Contact

People who make us look less uncomfortable. In contrast, when we are truly engaged in a conversation, we do a lot of contact with eyes, making you feel both parties involved and interesting. So, look up and make eye contact, if you want your conversation partner to feel understood.

Okay, I will not start intense - it's just plain scared - stare at the bridge of the nose and drop your gaze from time to time. If you're talking in a group, remember to include everyone in the conversation by scanning round and get eye contact with everyone.

Mirror and Match

The next time you're out at a restaurant or bar, take a look around and see how people sit when they are in a deep, intimate conversation. It is likely that they are sitting in very similar positions - almost as if it were the mirror image of the posture and the corresponding position.

To test your ability to build relationship, start a conversation with a friend or an enemy, and see if you can mirror and then bring their movements. Take some 'time to mirror their body language - if they have their legs crossed, make sure your legs are crossed too. If you are bouncing the leg, perhaps touching a pencil in time. Above all, be subtle - is a delicate dance and no one wants a partner who tramples over the shoes of the party.

After some time, do a mini assessment. Maybe scratch your nose - if they follow touching their face in response, you know you've hit the jackpot mirroring. Otherwise, do not worry, just take more time to build a deeper relationship.

In difficult or uncomfortable situations, most people worry about what is about to roll off their tongues. The truth is, you get the right body language, and that you have learned the basic skills of interpersonal communication. And the other 7% will take care of itself.

Lyndsay Swinton ...